Reviewed on: April 08,2026
Prison Rumors & Jail Scams

Will a Relationship With an Inmate Who Scams Others Last?

im recently involved with a inmate but he talks to other woman also trying to scam them out of whatever he needs but yet he says he loves me and no one else if that's the case then why does he continue to talk to other woman an if its really just for getting what he needs while locked up do you think our relationship will continue once he is released or am I just another one of his scamees

The question you are asking is the right one, and the fact that you are asking it out loud suggests you already have a sense of the answer.
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Answered by a former federal inmate · 14+ years advising families
✓ Verified answer January 29,2015 · Prison Rumors & Jail Scams
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The question you are asking is the right one, and the fact that you are asking it out loud suggests you already have a sense of the answer. That clarity deserves to be respected rather than talked around.

Incarceration creates a specific kind of dynamic where an inmate's ability to act on their feelings is genuinely limited. They cannot show up, cannot provide, cannot demonstrate love through action in the ways that a relationship outside requires. Some people who love someone genuinely struggle with that limitation. That is understandable and real.

What you are describing is different. Knowingly contacting multiple women and extracting resources from them through romantic manipulation is not a coping mechanism for limited access. It is a pattern of behavior that reflects how he approaches people when he wants something. The fact that he tells each of them they are the only one does not make it complicated. It makes it clear.

The honest answer to whether the relationship will continue after release is that people do not typically become different people when they walk out of a facility. The skills he is using right now, charm, declarations of love, the ability to manage multiple people's emotions simultaneously for personal gain, those do not disappear. They tend to get applied in new contexts.

You deserve someone who chooses you because they want to, not someone who tells you what you need to hear because it produces something useful for them. The answer to your question is not one we can give you, but it sounds like you already have it.

Accepted Answer Date Created: January 29,2015
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About this answer: This response was prepared by InmateAid’s editorial team in consultation with former inmates who have direct experience with the federal correctional system. InmateAid has served families of the incarcerated since 2012. This is general information only — not legal advice. Last reviewed April 2026.